不要错放了幸福温暖的手

以下是我本人看了一篇很不错的文章，想与大家分享，充实人生对爱情的观念。。。


往往许多人在抉择伴侣时，容易东想西想，不知所措，就是害怕一时做错决定，看错人，造成终生的遗憾。

诺贝尔文学奖得主萧伯纳说；此时此刻在地球上，约有两万个人适合当你的人生伴侣，就看你先遇到哪一个，如果在第二个理想伴侣出现之前，你已经跟前一个人发展出相知相惜，互相信赖的深层关系，那后者就会变成你的好朋友，但是若你跟眼前一个人没有培养出深层关系，感情就容易动摇，变心，直到你与这些理想伴侣候选人的其中一位拥有稳固的深情，才是幸福的开始，漂泊的结束。

爱上一个人不需要靠努力，只需要靠‘际遇’，是上天的安排，但是持续的爱一个人就要靠 ‘努力’，在爱情的经营中，顺畅运转的要素就是沟通，体谅，包容与自制(面临诱惑有所自制)。有许多人总是因‘际遇’所迷惑与苦恼，意念不停，欲念不断，而忘了培养经营感情的能力才是幸福的关键。

所以不要去追问到底谁才是我的 Mr. Right, 而是n问说在眼前的伴侣关系中，我能努力到什么程度，成长到什么程度，若没有培养出经营幸福的能力，就算真的 Mr. Right出现在你身边，幸福依然会错过的，而活在犹豫与遗憾当中，这不就是许多‘爱情虚无症’的遭遇与心态吗？

若你此刻已有一位长久相伴的伴侣，不要再随便三心二意地犹疑了，我们往往不易察觉感情中的一个陷阱，就是‘近亲生慢侮’也就是经济学中的铁律‘边际效益递减法则’，跟你在一起越久的人，就越容易麻木与忽视，而新鲜的‘际遇’中是那么动人可爱。

在感情对待中，难免有摩擦与无心伤害，而且论得罪自己的次数累加起来最多的人，当然是跟我们在一起最多，最几及的人。而新欢呢，又还没开始有得罪你的机会再加上他刻意的讨好，所以新欢怎么看怎么可爱，旧爱怎么看怎么讨厌。但别忘了，新换身上总是有不确定的未知数，旧爱身上就是有难得的熟悉感，确定感，信赖感。千万不要随便在偶然的‘际遇’中迷失了自己，错放了幸福温暖的手。

所以萧伯纳的话，是要提醒人不要太钻牛角尖于寻觅那唯一，应该把精神用在学会经营幸福的能力上，同时也提醒我们‘弱水三千只取一瓢饮’若有幸遇到了难得的伴侣，就不要再三心二意了，因为我们永远不知道一生何时会遇到两万个其中的几个，所以要知道惜福，活在当下。

Farm Town + Pet Society

You all must be very curious why i write about the Farm Town and Pet Society of Facebook...

No doubt, these games will accompany me along my "non-working" days starting from next week. I am going to fully utilise the game and spend my time with them to earn more coins and score now!!! hahahaha... no choice... can't even get any part time QS job now... Wanted to work in restaurent, but after further thought, this will make me more tired when going back to work in the office. Just let see how will things turn out end of the month, if really no good sign of it, then Malaysia or Singapore is my next destination... Gambate!!!

Bad Friday :-(

Today is a bad day for me... I have been informed that even though everyone in my department was being cut cost from 5 days work to 2 days work, i wouldn't be affected... but today... before the meeting go on, the 2 bosses came in and told me to work on 2 days work as well. I was so blur, not clear about they are instructing me to work on 2 days work or just to tell me that others will be working on 2 days work... after the meeting finish, the estimator director asked me whether i knew that i am in the list also, then i just realised that i was also in the list!!! OMG... It was about 60% cost cutting!!! How can we survive?? After deduction on rental and food, there is not much left... :-(

Therefore, we plan to go back home and will try to get a new journey of life again maybe in Singapore or middle east or just work in Malaysia.... What can we do? That cost cutting is just equivalent to redundancy now...